One minute happiness - 8 simple ways to happiness


By doing simple things and appreciating the people in our life, we will be a little bit happier than yesterday. :)

If you have one minute…

1. Before you leave your spouse for work, at least give him or her a warm hug or a sweet kiss before you step out the door.

2. When you are at your busiest moment at work, take a one-minute break to give your lover a phone call, even if it is just to say a simple ‘hello’.

3. If your child is calling for you from his or her room, do not hesitate to stop what you are doing and go to your child’s bedroom.

4. After eating out during a weekend dinner, take the stairs with your wife or husband instead of taking the elevator.

5. Spend an extra minute to cut your husband’s favorite fruit into small pieces and feed him.

6. Even if you know he is faking his headache, be willing to massage his head for one minute.

7. Listen to a beautiful song while making your cuppa.

8. When you leave a sticky note on the fridge, scribble a smiley face for your children, or draw a sweet, sweet heart for their daddy. :)

Creative thinking, creative problem solving


How many times have you thought that there could be no other solution to a problem, and that no matter what you do it will lead to a dead end? How many times have you felt hopeless realising that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve, even after you have exhausted all possible options?

The pressure of having to solve such enormous problems may be overwhelming. It feels like you were hammering against a steel mountain, doesn’t it?

Do not fret though. There is still hope.

By learning some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light, which might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions. But before this could happen, you should be opened mind about two things:

  • There may be more than just one solution to the problem
  • There may be solutions to problems you thought unsolvable.

When equipped with this optimistic mindset, you can try to be little bit more creative in solving your problems.

1. Have you really taken a hard look at your problem?
Having a concrete understanding of your problem is integral in solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem. Try to identify the entities involved and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain and stand to lose from the current problem.

2. Are you constraining yourself with assumptions?
Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct your view of possible solutions. You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

3. Are you trying to solve everything at once?
Try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem. Write down a question for each little part, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that. It should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here, you can develop the solution further and increase its complexity little by little.

4. Do you have both analytical and creative minds working?
Although it helps to have analytical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative. At the same time, look for holes in the solution and improve it.

5. Are there any back up plans?
Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem. You can develop more than one solution at one time, and try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments.

6. Are you trying to be a solo hero?
Two heads are always better than one. Always be open to new ideas. You can benefit a lot from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you’re talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

One creative thinking exercise to help you in your quest in creative problem solving:
Take a piece of paper and write any word that comes to mind at the center. Now look at that word then write the first two words that come to your mind. Continue this until you build a tree of related words. This helps you build analogical skills, and fortify your creative processes.

So, next time you encounter a seemingly unsolvable problem, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, plus a whole lot of work. Remember, every problem has a solution.

How to be happy

Almost everyone knows how to hum that song by Bobby McFerrin - ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’.

Yep, living a happy and optimistic life is great for your mind as well as your health. Being happy protects you from the stresses of life. Happiness can be found in everyone, in fact, it is there inside you. We have the power to make the necessary changes we want in life, so that we can be happy.

How to ‘be happy’?

Be grateful. Be thankful of what you have. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank your mother-in-law for a wonderful dinner, and thank the plumber who repaired your kitchen sink. Also thank your husband for cleaning up the dishes, the mailman for bringing you your mails, the waiter who serves you at the diner. Just be thankful for being alive.

Manage your time wisely, as time is invaluable and too important to waste. Learn to manage your time, or develop an efficient personal time management skill. Fine tune these skills and you will have that extra reserve to accomplish your tasks and create the results you desire. When you feel a sense of accomplishment, and being competent, you feel happy. More importantly, work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

News is stressful. Most of the news we read or hear is bad news. So get less of it. Starting your day without bad news seem to be a more sensible thing to do, and will keep you happy for a longer time throughout the day.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. As you have heard it so many times - ‘Laughter is the best medicine’. So, pread some good news, or tell a good joke as and when you can.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. Accept people for who they are. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, as it is bad for health. Find ways to express them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone. Let go of all kinds of resentments.

Continue to learn something new everyday. Learning adds on to our knowledge and broaden our horizons, and give us more opportunities in the future.

Stay away from negative elements, such as drugs, hazardous places, and loud noises.

Feel alive , or rather STAY alive by doing the things your body was made for. Exercise - run, jog, or walk. Dance. Hike.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. The choice is yours. :)

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